To look upon death
And so, as I started to prepare this dear one as I had been instructed… to do… to hide… to disengage… I stopped. And gazed upon this small, small death instead. I called to my roommate. And when she reported with the needed items for the next step of our instructions, I said, from idk where, “No. We shepherd death”. So instead we sat. We gazed, and pet, and loved, and cried. We stated our sadness out loud. We silently held space for our grave disappointment.
On “sex therapy” (and universal design)
So the question of the hour is: Am I a sex therapist?
And in very therapist-y fashion I’ll respond with what I think is the more important question: What is a sex therapist?
Mental Health and Gatekeeping in Trans/Gender Affirmative Care
Often trans care requires a diagnosis of (and sometimes ongoing treatment of) Gender Dysphoria from a mental health professional in order to receive gender affirming therapies, like hormone replacement therapies/gender affirmation hormone therapies. This model makes the clinician a gatekeeper and the client is required to perform diagnosis in order to access the care needed.
Shadow Work: The Privilege of Therapy
… gay, genderqueer, POC, fat, disabled, etc. folks are NOT guaranteed safe space in therapy.
On astrology and building from reductive to relational
For me, astrology is a practice in interconnection. Its resisting the ways that I've been taught to see one as separate from the other - the forest from the trees, the symptom from the system, the client from the joys and oppressions of their lineage - by choosing instead to see how they are, in fact, the same.
What Does It Mean to Be Queer?
Queer is a relational position; it is defined by context… What is queer is defined by what is “normal”. If “normal” is a reflection or translation of power, then queer reflects a lack of power structurally.